Time
Luke and I have been married for nearly six months. I think in this six months I am only just starting to get the hang of it. It’s a lot different then I thought! I am constantly learning and changing (which I think is a really great thing).
I’ve been thinking about how much I may learn in the next six months. And also, where we’ll be in six months.
In six months (our one year anniversary) we will be living in our new home. We will be much more on track with saving for a holiday or something similar. We will be a year closer to having a baby. We will be more in love. We will be closer. We will be spending more time together (at the moment this is hard with Luke’s other commitments). We will hopefully be in a rhythm of balancing work, uni, and things like that.
(I like to remember that personally in another six months I will have finished Uni, and I will have my camera, and I will be far more organised, and have more time to blog *fingers crossed*. Hopefully this is not just wishful thinking!)
My current thing I am working on is remembering how much Luke loves me. And how much I love him. I know this might sound like a silly thing to need to be reminded of, but for me, it’s a biggy. When I stop and actually LOOK at Luke, and I see the way he looks at me, I melt again. It is easy when you are busy and rushed and stressed to just take the other person for granted. To get annoyed by the things they do that aren’t right, and forget all the times they compromised for you, and sacrificed, and gave you a hug when you needed it. So I am trying to stop more. This is working well not just in marriage, but in other areas. Food- I only had like 8 baby eggs this easter, but I am MORE then satisfied, because it took my like 5 minutes to eat each one of them! I had had 5 minutes of constant chocolate, which is quite heavenly (but kinda sickening by the end), this is so much better though then like the 5 seconds it takes to bite into one and then it’s gone.
It’s work well with work as well- stopping to appreciate what I’ve done that day, and what I’ve achieved. It also works with friends. Taking the time to be with them, talk with them, and hang out. 
My other thing I am constantly working on (but getting much better at) is apologising immediately after I say something rudely, or in a huff, or hurtful.
Wish me luck!!
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March 25 2008 09:55 am | 1Wedding/Marriage
March 25th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
Being able to apologise is such a great relationship skill. Good on your for making conscious effort to learn to do it.
Good luck with your goals.