Buy something/anything!
Sometimes I just need to buy something (anything). Does anyone else feel this way?
Luckily when I got the urge on Monday I had some Uni supplies I needed to get. *phew*. I also took the opportunity to get some things that I just liked. 
But that’s what spending money is FOR! Mind you, I bought two magazines on Monday, and haven’t actually looked through either one yet! I just have no time. 
But back onto the subject of NEEDING to buy things… for a while there it was pretty bad, and when I was younger (read: 12-20) it was more serious then it is now. ALL my money left my hands every week on movies, mostly on CDs and food. This would have been okay if my pocket money was like $5, but it wasn’t, it was quite a bit more then that, and I was meant to spend it on new clothes and anything else I might actually NEED. You can imagine that during some of that time I was working full time, so yeah, that’s a fair amount of spending money! BUT I learnt my lesson, and felt a lot of buyer’s remorse.
Now that I’m thinking about it, I have been pretty crap with money always, and it only really stopped because I got married and Luke would get angry if I spent the money that was OURS. He’s never actually GOT angry at me (though I’ll tell you, it has been the other way ’round before!), I’m just pretty certain in my head that he WOULD get angry at me if I did.
I have been in trouble with my husband before. He has this crazy way of looking at you and not saying anything that makes you feel so quilty for what you’ve done. And he only brings it out on VERY special occasions, like when you’ve done something really stupidly selfish and wrong, so that kinda makes it worse, because it doesn’t just happen for anything, only the really bad things you did…
I’ve sort of made him sound like a bit of a bully, but he’s not. OBVIOUSLY you know that, because I already tell you all the super amazing things he does. And this is actually whole ‘getting angry at me ‘ thing is a positive thing too- because sometimes, we just have to face the facts, and the facts are that I am crap with money. There I said it. I imagine this is the feeling one has when they admit their problem at a support group. Without Luke I would have so many scrapbooking and craft supplies that I would have no money for food or to pay the gas bill… And I wouldn’t be going to EUROPE in October either!
I haven’t told you that exciting news officially yet, have I?! Our flights and tour are booked, and we’re leaving after Carmen‘s wedding (on the Monday). I shall let you know more details closer to the date!
So yeah, I still get the urge to spend things, and sometimes I do, but I make sure it’s with my personal finances, not the joint moneys… I would really love to hear from you in the comments if you suffer the same types of urges! Do you let them run free, free to be wild, or do you keep them under tight control with systems and rules, and restrictions? OR are you just super with money -what is your secret!?!
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Tags: buying, dollars, europe, Luke, money, personal, thoughts, trouble
March 18th, 2010
yeh, when i think about all the shit things i used to spend my moeny on when i was single, i feel really dumb. marriage and real bills brings on the responsibility. thats great the ur going to europe! sounds like a blast! where exactly? or u just doin a tour?
March 18th, 2010
It’s a hard one. I love to shop! I’m crazy about art & craft supplies and stationary! Also…clothes, jewellery, shoes, acessories…the list goes on.
I’ve always been OK at saving. Not great…but OK. I will freak out if I’ve got no savings in the bank. Even if it’s just a hundred dollars, i feel better to know something is there.
Since moving out of home, and having a partner & a baby to share finances with, I’ve become a little more disciplined when it comes to having a budget and paying bills on time. It’s kind of an inbuilt instinct as a mum now. I have to make sure my child has everything she needs (and wants!). It’s a catch 22 though – because every time I walk past Pumpkin Patch or Cotton On Kids my “Motherly Instincts” to clothe my child in cool kids clothes tend to kick in too!
I go through phases. Sometimes I’ll be on a savings stint…and then I see a see a shoe sale and I get all silly. haha.
March 18th, 2010
Yeah when I was single I’d spent quite a lot of money. When I was younger and my brother and I go pocket money I was the spender and he was the saver.
Now days I’m a good saver but only if I have a goal. Like right now we’d like a house so I have to keep reminding myself of this goal and looking at pictures to keep me motivated. I also have rules in place for myself with money like I ALWAYS have to have a certain amount of $$ in the bank account for emerganises.
March 18th, 2010
WHenever I walk into a book shop I can’t help but buy some books!! Spent over $100 on Saturday
silly me
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March 18th, 2010
Clarissa, Books are one of my weaknesses too! I use to thave thing about books that cost 7.99 from QBD… they seemed to ALWAYS be good books, as long as they had a cute cover.
Carmen,
Goals definitely help me too- Europe being our goal currently, then some major appliances and nursery things. I always like having a bit of pocket money each week though- so I can indulge myself in a coffee with friends, or take-away when I don’t feel like cooking, or craft supplies.
Jaz, I definitely need to have savings in the bank too- it’s a relief to think that if an unexpected bill, or a really great bargain came up that we could get it and it wouldn’t be a problem!
Mira, Marriage definitely makes you more responsible!! That’s for SURE.
re: Europe, we’re going on a Contiki tour: http://contiki.com.au/tours/125-european-vista-winter
I’m getting pretty excited now.
March 18th, 2010
I also feel the need to spend! Even when I try to save, it’s like I have to buy something ‘for me’ each pay fortnight. Glad I am not the only one.
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